Here are questions you can ask yourself to determine the right amount of attention when your child is hurt or sick.

• Is the amount and type of attention you give too much, or do you give it for too long? Are you allowing him to do as much for himself as he can? Does the amount and type of attention you give keep him dependent on you beyond what is really necessary?

• What impact does the amount and type of attention you give have on other people in the family? Are there ways to let everyone know that their needs are important?

• Is the amount and type of attention you give what your child needs or what you need to do for your own reasons (for example, you wanted more attention when you were a child; you feel guilty that you work a lot; you like the feeling of being needed)?

• Do you have a plan for helping your child do more things for himself and need you less?

Read the whole story at When a Kid Gets Hurt.