Today and for the next few days pay attention to any feelings of jealousy you may have.

Are there times you feel yourself tightening up with anger and resentment at work or at home? Think about what the fear behind that anger is about.

What are you afraid you might lose?   Is it someone’s affection?   Recognition of your abilities? A job?

Once you have an idea about what it is you fear losing, ask yourself why you think you are in danger of losing it. Have you lost this before and decided you should expect to lose it again? Have you decided you don’t deserve to have what you want?

If your answer to either of these is yes, begin working on making a new decision. Stay focused on real here-and-now facts, not your fears, and don’t let past experience tell you what your future will be. Working on claiming your personal power can help you make a new decision.

Other helpful tips for dealing with jealousy:

• Gratitude. Think about what you have and the value of what you have.

• Distract yourself from your feelings. Do something else; think about something else.

• Give it time. Remember that feelings come and go. With time they subside and fade if you don’t dwell on them.

You can use what you learn about your own feelings of jealousy and ways to deal with them to help your children to deal with their jealous feelings.