You can help your child believe that it’s OK to ask for help. Play “Asking for Help.” Take turns thinking of different ways you can ask for help in different situations.

Since school is starting, make all the situations be school situations.

This is a game where you make up a situation, and the other person suggests problem solutions. It encourages thinking about what you should do when faced with difficult, maybe even scary situations. It is a game you can play at home, in the car, or waiting to be served in a restaurant. No supplies needed—just two brains thinking about the same thing.

Since school is starting, make all the situations be school situations. For example, what if I get hurt on the playground, can’t find the bathroom, or forgot my lunch? If your child offers inappropriate suggestions or can’t think of a suggestion, add some additional information to help him.

I remember this situation …. Could you do this when …? Once when I (or your sister or brother) had that problem, I (they) …. Write the ideas down and post them in an obvious place at home.  Ask your child which suggestions he likes the best.

Explain to your child that it is not only OK to ask for help, it is actually a powerful thing to do because you are taking care of yourself. Share ways you ask for help at home and at work.