Be Responsible “to,” Not “for” Children. (4-13-14)


Today’s Parenting Tip:

DECIDE:   Your child’s behavior is a chance for you to teach and for her to learn.

PRACTICE:   Today, think about this statement: “You are responsible to your children not for them.”  Ask yourself what that statement means to you.

Think about a time your child’s behavior embarrassed you.  Write down some of the reasons you were embarrassed.

Did you think others would judge you as a bad parent?  Did you think you were a failure because you thought you had taught your child to never make the mistake that she made?  Did you think you should and could control what your child did or did not do?

Write down what you could have done if you were thinking mostly about being responsible to your child (not for your child).

For example, should you at that moment shown her what was expected and waited for her to do it?  Should you have removed her from the situation to teach her a lesson and to be respectful of the others in the situation?  Should you have decided what was a reasonable consequence and made sure you stuck to it?

Think about whether any of these reactions or others you might think of would have saved you some of your embarrassment.

Today’s Decide and Practice daily parenting tip was inspired by our featured picture book, MORRIS THE ARTIST.  Read the book to a child in your life each day as a reminder of what you are deciding and practicing that day.

Come back each day for another good parenting decision and how to practice it. (Each day’s activity will also be posted on the Daily Parenting Tips page for easy access.)

Read the whole story at The Benefits of Art, Choices, and Discipline: Part III. 

2 thoughts on “Be Responsible “to,” Not “for” Children. (4-13-14)

    • Thank you for putting it on your “parenting radar.” One of the most important things for a parent to be is – to be intentional – to know what kind of parent s/he wants to be and intentionally work to get there.

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