Healthy Hassling* (5-22-14)


Today’s Parenting Tip:

DECIDE:    Healthy hassling can be a good thing.    

*(Thanks to Jean Illsley Clarke for writing about healthy hassling in SELF ESTEEM A FAMILY AFFAIR.)

PRACTICE:   Today, explain healthy hassling to a child and try it out with a “What If” game. Be sure to work with a child who is mature enough to think about things in a variety of ways. Explain to him that healthy hassling:

  • Is a way to exercise our thinking muscles. It is not about someone being right and someone else being wrong.
  • Does not allow name-calling or criticizing.
  • Requires signal for stopping so that you can easily stop if you begin to feel angry or upset.

If the child agrees to the hassling, ask a “What If” question and start hassling your child’s response. Here is an example of how it might sound.

ADULT:            “What if you went on a chore strike – no more dinner dishes for you.”

CHILD:             “I like this idea. I have better things to do.”

ADULT:            “Yes, but we wouldn’t have any dishes to eat on.”

CHILD:             “We could eat on paper plates.”

ADULT:            “That would cost a lot of money. We would have to stop spending money on some other things. Maybe allowance.”

CHILD:             “I could sell some old videos and make a paper plate fund.

ADULT:            “I have to go now, but I thought your ideas were very Interesting. Let’s talk again sometime”

Today’s Decide and Practice daily parenting tip was inspired by our featured picture book, IF I CROSSED THE ROAD.  Read the book to a child in your life each day as a reminder of what you are deciding and practicing that day.

Come back each day for another good parenting decision and how to practice it. (Each day’s activity will also be posted on the Daily Parenting Tips page for easy access.)

Read the whole story at When Are Kids Old Enough?

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