Today’s Parenting Tip:
Decide: You can know whether your child has too much.
Practice: Today, think about your child’s last birthday party. Answer these questions. (Thanks to Jean Illsley Clarke for connecting these types of questions with knowing what is enough.)
- Did the party help your child grow and develop based on his age and abilities?
Did he learn about appreciation? Or, was there so much happening that he couldn’t focus on appreciating what others were doing for him?
Did he learn that love was about stuff or having fun?
Did he learn to create fun by using his imagination? Or, was he dependent on toys with bells and whistles to keep him constantly amused?
Did he take care of his gifts?
- Did the party require so much money or so much family time and attention that it took away from things that needed to be done for others in the family – including myself?
If so, could I have had a nice party with less money and less of my time and attention?
- Was the party about what my child needed or what I needed or wanted him to have for my own reasons?
For example, I wanted parties when I was a child; I needed to impress others; I felt guilty that I work a lot; I wanted my child to be popular; or I wanted my child to love me.
- Is anything about this party harmful to others – including the environment?
Use your answers to these questions to help you know what types of parties are too much and what you want to do to correct that this year.
(Thanks to Jean Illsley Clarke for connecting these types of questions to overindulgence.)
Today’s Parenting Tip was inspired by our featured picture book, CLEVER JACK TAKES THE CAKE. Read the book to a child in your life each day as a reminder of what you are deciding and practicing that day.
Come back each day for another good parenting decision and how to practice it. (Each day’s activity will also be posted on the Daily Parenting Tips page for easy access.)
Read the whole story at Birthday Parties, Part 1.