Children can be heard and not just seen, especially if they are taught how to be heard. The first thing required for learning how is to practice. So …..

Once or twice this week make sure your child is with you when you are having an adult conversation – even if it is just with another adult who lives with you.  Plan how you will help your child feel included.

For example:

*  Take short breaks from the adult conversation every so often to talk to your child.

*  Talk to your child ahead of time and let him know that this is an adult conversation and that he is expected to either play on his own nearby or be a quiet listener. Also let him know about how long you will be having this conversation.

*  Give your child a silent signal for when he needs to talk to you – like a tap on the arm.