No Excuses from Your Child (9-17-14)


Today’s Parenting Tip:

DECIDE:   Responsibility includes saying no when you mean no.

PRACTICE:   Today, when your child answers your request with an excuse or with no answer at all, try to get him to be responsible and give you a straight answer. Here is an example of how to do that.

ADULT:  “Will you take the dog for a walk?”

CHILD:  “Later.”

ADULT:   “Will you do it before or after your TV show?”

 CHILD:  “I don’t know.”

ADULT:   “Will you do it before the TV show, yes or no?”

What the adult wants from the child is a plain “yes” or “no.” His answer then becomes something the adult can hold him to – there is no wiggling out of his responsibility.

Remember this is only for requests that the child can say no to. If he is required to do something, it is better to tell him what is required, not to ask if he will do it.

Today’s Decide and Practice daily parenting tip was inspired by our featured picture book, PICK A PUP.  Read the book to a child in your life each day as a reminder of what you are deciding and practicing that day.

Come back each day for another good parenting decision and how to practice it. (Each day’s activity will also be posted on the Daily Parenting Tips page for easy access.)

Read the whole story at Kids and Pets: More about Responsibility, Love, Independence, and Loss.