Today’s Parenting Tip:
DECIDE: To think about what it means to say “no.”
PRACTICE: Today, think back to your own childhood and what you heard about saying “no” – things said to you or others around you.
Was it a no-no to use that word. Were their punishments associated with the word? Did you hear, “How dare you talk to me that way.” or “You little rascal, you have a mind of your own.”
Did you hear, “I hear you complaining, but you have to do as I say.” or “Now, honey, you don’t really mean that.”
Whatever words you remember, think about whether they are helpful to you now. Is that how you want to think about “no” from your children or is it how you want to feel when you are deciding whether to say no yourself in your adult world?
Write down some phrases that would be more helpful to you today as an adult. For example, “Boy, you really mean “no” all right, but you’ll still have to do as I say.” (parent to child) or “I am sorry to hear no, but I respect your reasons for refusing.” (adult to adult)
Keep these more helpful words where you can remind yourself of them. Use them when you are having trouble hearing no from your children or saying no as an adult.
Today’s Decide and Practice daily parenting tip was inspired by our featured picture book, MORRIS THE ARTIST. Read the book to a child in your life each day as a reminder of what you are deciding and practicing that day.
Come back each day for another good parenting decision and how to practice it. (Each day’s activity will also be posted on the Daily Parenting Tips page for easy access.)
Read the whole story at The Benefits of Art, Choices, and Discipline: Part II.