Children Can Know What They Need. (3-21-15)

Today’s Parenting Tip:

DECIDE:        Your child can learn to know what he needs.

PRACTICE:   Today, when your child is hurt or feels sad or disappointed ask him if there is anything you can do for him? Ask him what he needs. Ask what will make him feel better?

If he answers, “No” or “I don’t know,” accept the answer. Don’t suggest things. Let him know you are there for him, if he thinks of anything. If he asks for something you can’t do, suggest another close option.

For example, if he says he wants a chocolate sundae, you could offer something more nutritious with an added feature like making a special place for the two of you to share a nutritious snack.

If you have a very young child, you will need to think for him and decide how to comfort him, but as you offer cuddling or toys to play with, go ahead and ask him what he needs. It sets the stage for him knowing that what he needs is important and he will one day be able to say what those needs are.

Today’s Parenting Tip was inspired by our featured picture book, BOO HOO BIRD.  Read the book to a child in your life each day as a reminder of what you are deciding and practicing that day.

Come back each day for another good parenting decision and how to practice it. (Each day’s activity will also be posted on the Daily Parenting Tips page for easy access.)

Read the whole story at When a Kid Gets Hurt.



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