Time-In (5-3-14)

May 3, 2014:

DECIDE:    To use time-in.    

PRACTICE:  Today, when a child does something that deserves a “time-out,” try “time-in” instead.

Sit the child down with you in a calm out-of-the-way place and get him to think about the situation. Stay with the child and help him think about what was not working and what would work better.

This is different from time-out where you separate the child from the situation and insist he be alone while he calms down.

Children do not usually use time-out to do much “thinking.” Their feelings get in the way. They are too busy trying to calm down.

To think through what was happening in the situation, children often need an adult’s help. Adults stay with the child with time-in and that is why it can be useful for thinking how to do better.

For more information about time-in: TIME-IN: WHEN TIME-OUT DOESN’T WORK, Jean Illsley Clarke and Cary Pillo

Today’s Decide and Practice daily parenting tip was inspired by our featured picture book, PHOEBE & DIGGER.  Read the book to a child in your life each day as a reminder of what you are deciding and practicing that day.

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Read the whole story at Making Children Feel Safe and Important, Part 2.