The best use of Time-Out is to allow both children and adults time to calm down. Whenchildren are given Time-Out, they often are told to think about what they have done. However, Time-Out is not that useful for helping children figure out how to do things better. They can be too young or upset at that moment. And, they are alone without adult guidance about what they did wrong and how to correct their behavior.
The best use of Time-In is to help children learn how to behave better. During Time-In adults can give children undivided attention one-on-one without distractions. They can explain what children should not do, why they should not do it, and what they should do instead. This is truly “think” time. It is a chance for children to figure things out. For more information about Time-In take a look at the book, TIME-IN by Jean Illsley Clarke and Cary Pillo.