Today’s Parenting Tip:
Decide: You will stop criticizing your child when you need to correct her.
Practice: Think of a person you can comfortably talk to about your child’s problem behaviors. Ask that person to become a parenting partner and role play with you about how to communicate with your child.
Describe your child’s problem behavior and have your friend pretend to be you, the parent, while you pretend to be your child.
Have your friend make a critical parent response.
Listen to the criticism as though you were your child, see what you think and feel when you hear it.
Would it help your child? If not, decide not to use criticism with your child. When you are done role playing, tell your friend you know he (or she) is not really a critical person. (Jean Illsley Clarke calls this type of role play “Four Ways of Parenting.”)
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Today’s Decide and Practice daily parenting tip was inspired by our featured picture book, THE MONSTER WHO LOST HIS MEAN. Read the book to a child in your life each day as a reminder of what you are deciding and practicing that day.
Come back each day for another good parenting decision and how to practice it. (Each day’s activity will also be posted on Daily Parenting Tips page for easy access.)
Read the whole story at Correct; Don’t Criticize – Part 1.