Three ways children learn to think for themselves:
By saying no a lot, especially when they are toddlers. This is when they first become aware that they have a mind of their own.
By being required to do what they are told, even when they complain. This is how they learn they must find better ways to let people know what they want.
By learning there are good ways to get what they want. For example,
Asking for help
Using words instead of hitting, pushing, or pulling
Sticking to something long enough to be successful
(See What It Means When Children Say “No!” for more about children thinking for themselves.)
Spring’s Picture Books
We have been amazed at how much good parenting information is in children’s picture books – books that we hope you are reading everyday to the children in your lives – your own, your class, those you take care of. For each book, we are noting there is something in it to remind you of how to be the parent you want to be.
A reminder that your child has a star within him, and you can help it shine.
A reminder that you can help your children with sad and frustrated feelings when they can’t have everything they want.
A reminder how important it is for your children to learn to wait.
A reminder about what it means when your child says no and how important your response can be.
A reminder that it is important to help your child handle his or her aggression.
A reminder of how important it is for your child to have your attention.
Read All About It:
SELF-ESTEEM A FAMILY AFFAIR, Jean Illsley Clarke
GROWING UP AGAIN: PARENTING OURSELVES, PARENTING OUR CHILDREN, Jean Illsley Clarke and Connie Dawson
Surf the Internet:
no-saying in children